How to Achieve Unshakable Confidence Through Self Realization
There is plenty of information around about the ‘law of attraction’ where you can achieve all your dreams and desires through setting your intentions, attention and states of mind to ‘attract’ what you want easily. Modern psychology can help create a healthy ego that sets reasonable goals and moves diligently toward them. Or maybe your a Tony Robbins fan where belief in your self becomes almost religious and the sheer power of single pointed motivation to obtain what you want is all that is necessary.
Concepts and ideas are just illusory there is no real substance to them that's why in Zen there is a saying
“…if you see Buddha in the street, kill him!”
This popular Zen saying essentially points to 'killing' any concept of something outside of yourself that can be relied on. Or at least as a famous Tibetan yogi suggests "don't believe in your thoughts".
The Confidence of Knowing Who You Truly Are
So this brings me to what I would like to introduce you to that can be relied on, that can bring a
fearless confidence and a way of being that is available to everyoneregardless of what country you are from, what religious background you have or how much money you earn; this is the universal confidence of discovering your own consciousness with all its miraculous qualities.
Since I have just somewhat criticised religions I would like to mention these teachings, which are referred to as the ‘perennial philosophy‘ are found, sometimes hidden or secret, within all the major religious teachings of the world and discovering or uncovering this hidden truth is the key to unshakable confidence and the goal of meditation.
The
perennial philosophy
points to a ‘true self’ which when contacted heralds the dawning of a new identity, a new understanding of who you are and an unshakable confidence. This is not an arrogant driven type of confidence that believes it can achieve all goals or have whatever it wants, on the contrary it is a humble confidence that realises deeply the futility and vanity of reaching for fulfillment within the temporary appearances of the world.
A humility built on a grandmother like wisdom that knows the temporary and fleeting nature of things. This wisdom is not depressing, instead it is liberating. It deeply realizes the value of each sunset, each smile from another human being and the richness of every day. Each day is seen as more precious than ever and should never be taken for granted because it simply will not last.
There is relief found in not grasping at the ever changing world for security and a new found confidence in the already complete eternal present moment – the only place happiness and fulfillment can ever be found.
The type of confidence I am presenting ironically starts with giving up or surrendering. This surrender is called
renouncing worldly affairs which is giving up the temporary and unreliable fluctuations of ‘goal achieving’ happiness orientated toward future achievements and replacing it with the lasting and greater happiness available from knowing who you really are in the present moment.
*Try it – pause right now and contemplate who are you in this moment if you do not believe your thoughts?
It turns out you are an eternal unbounded consciousness that is the primary and fundamental source of the universe.
That means from this perspective our bodies, brains and everything else comes out of this consciousness like a wave coming out of the ocean, rather than the other way around.
Science, including neuroscience, has not yet proven their theory that consciousness arises from the brain and nervous system - it is still a mystery to them and known as the ‘ hard problem of consciousness ‘.
Mystics and contemplatives on the other hand have been telling us for millennia that our true self is an unbounded consciousness imbued with intuitive intelligence, unconditional love and immeasurable bliss and joy. In Buddhism it is called Buddha Nature and it is taught that this nature is already perfect, enlightened and complete with positive qualities. The goal of all Buddhist schools is to realise this nature.
Self realized beings have told us that worldly happiness pales in comparison to the self-realisation of consciousness and the Buddhist & Yogic ideas of liberation and enlightenment are founded on realizing this universal truth directly. Unfortunately this realisation is ego’s biggest disappointment. It is not a personal self but a universal self shared by every living being. You are not better than anyone else you are just a reflection of this divine self within the conditions of the world. The term Namaste – the divine light in me recognises the divine light in you – is a great way to remember this level of equality when you meet others.
This consciousness or Open Awareness I am pointing to is fearless, what Zen Masters call indomitable – which means it is not moved or swept away by present circumstances; it is indestructible like the sky and contacting this inner space can bring tremendous courage and fortitude into our lives. The realisation that the passing weather can never harm the sky is just like how passing thoughts and emotions no matter how strong can never harm your true inner sky like conscious self.
Your true self or Open Awareness does not come and go, you do not create this Awareness in meditation and you cannot make it better and you cannot harm it either, it is at the heart of all experiences, it is here right now, it is the open space that is allowing you to read this blog. It is the effortless ground of your being, the unchanging presence that has been with you all your life. As Deepak Chopra explains:
“Meditation is not a way of making your mind quiet. It is a way of entering into the quiet that is already there – buried under the 50,000 thoughts the average person thinks every day”
Zen Master Bankei calls it the great ‘Unborn’ because it does not arise newly or from causes it has always been there – it is what the ‘big bang’ emerged from. It has never been born in the normal sense and therefore it can never die, it is the only ‘thing’ like it, everything else will be born and die and cannot be relied on. If you try and gain confidence in anything else it will be unstable and unreliable.
Another metaphor is your true self is like the calm stillness in the centre of a storm or tornado, even when chaos is swirling around us there is a calm centre, a quiet place within that always has a cheeky inner smile that knows this too shall pass.
Written by Chad Foreman
Chad Foreman is the founder of The Way of Meditation, has been teaching meditation since 2003, determined to bring authentic meditation practices into the lives of millions of people in the modern world. Chad is a former Buddhist monk who spent 6 years living in a retreat hut studying and practicing meditation full time and has now has over twenty years’ experience teaching meditation. Chad holds regular
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